Disclaimer: This article discusses sensitive topics such as death, depression, suicide, and more. Read at your own risk.
In our current society, mental health isn’t given much importance regardless of its terrible outcomes if it declines. The stigma against mental health still lives on despite the passing of many years. This is mainly due to the stereotypes and lack of education on this matter. In addition, it is caused by the sensitivity of this topic. Due to this, individuals feel the need to avoid discussing it. However, this is not a “tradition” we should continue. As a community, we’ve been sweeping this issue under the rug for far too long. It’s time to have an open discussion regarding this subject. By disregarding this extremely important topic, not only are we dismissing those who are suffering from mental health issues but we are encouraging them to continue to feel the way they do until it leads them to eventually hurting themselves.
It is part of human nature to place labels on everything whether it’s objects, individuals or ideas. We, as a community, also have this tendency of labeling individuals with mental illnesses or concerns as “psychotic”/ “crazy”. However, these are inaccurate and ignorant labels being placed upon those suffering from these issues and although it’s part of our nature, it doesn’t equate to being justified. They deserve the care and support through their journey rather than the humiliation that comes with accepting the issue they have.
Mental health includes our emotional, physiological and social well-being. It affects the way we think, act and feel. Mental illness is a physical illness of the brain that causes disturbances in thinking, behavior, energy or emotion which makes it difficult to cope with the ordinary demands of life. Some common mental health disorders are post-traumatic stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder and mood disorders such as depression and bipolar depression. Signs and symptoms of mental illness can vary, depending on the disorder but some examples include: feeling sad or down, significant tiredness, major changes in eating, suicidal thoughts, inability to focus, problems with alcohol and drugs, constant worrying and stress and lastly excessive anger or violence.
Mental health concerns are more common than you may believe. We genuinely aren’t aware of the experiences of others and the battles they may be fighting. Although we often hear this, it’s the truth. Therefore, we cannot make assumptions and should be more mindful of how we treat others. If you identify more than one of the symptoms, previously mentioned, in your friend or family member then you should try to reach out to them subtly. Give your endless support by listening to their rants and feelings. Allow them to feel comfortable to talk to you instead of being judgmental towards their emotions. However, do not try to diagnose what they have nor second guess their feelings. You can also help them, with their permission, in seeking professional help. Assist them in talking to their family members or provide information in which they can seek help from someone externally. The best you can do is support them and help them through their situation if they allow you to. However, if you notice your friend’s or family member’s mental health is regressing and believe they are about to do something dangerous, notify an adult you deem to be trustworthy and helpful.
If you feel like you perceive these signs and symptoms in yourself rather than someone else then it’s time to have a discussion. Talk to a trustworthy friend or family member, who you feel comfortable with. If you do not feel like sharing your feelings with someone, then write them down in a journal. Although sometimes it’s better to hear the advice given by others, it’s understandable if you choose not to do that. However, you must remember that just because you identify with one or a few of these signs, it does not necessarily mean that you have a mental disorder or concern. It’s essential that you do not self-diagnose as you may diagnose yourself incorrectly. Hence, you give yourself the wrong treatment and may lead your mental health to regress rather than improving. It’s better to acknowledge that you aren’t okay and try to seek help rather than solving it yourself and making it worse.
Mental health disorders may develop due to multiple reasons such as bullying, insecurities, the death of a loved one, school stress and traumatic incidents. We often find it difficult to cope with these situations which then impacts our health. If you feel like you’re relating to the symptoms mentioned previously or you feel as though your mental health is regressing due to school then here’s a couple of things you can do:
Go out and be active.
Attempt to be physically fit by joining a sports team or dance class. Learn something new while you’re at it or do something you love.
Try to think positively.
It sounds generic, I know. However, your mindset plays a big role in how you view your world, how your day goes and ultimately, how you feel. Each day, write five things you’re grateful for. Start reciting positive affirmations in the morning, to yourself in the mirror. Compliment your friends and let them know they’re doing well too.
Socialize.
Spend time with your friends and family more often. Try to connect with them and let them know what’s going on if you’d like to. Whether it’s going to the movies or out for dinner, just have fun with your loved ones. Being in the company of others, makes you feel better and usually helps forget about your stressful thoughts. If you still feel stressed with school, then study with your friends. In that way, you’re in the company of your friends and are still being productive.
Seek Help
If you’re suffering from a mental disorder, do not keep it to yourself. Approach friends and family members for help and support. At the end of the day, the ones who love you will never wish bad upon you. Your family and friends are your number one supporters and will always be there for you.
If you’re coping with any of the other situations listed above then this message is for you. It’s okay to be sad, your feelings are valid. However, do not let it drown you and consume you. There’s so much more to life than what you’re seeing currently. Look back at all the challenges you’ve overcome and just understand that you will overcome this one too. Dealing with the death of a loved one is never easy but one day you will receive the courage to understand that it’s okay to let go of them. Letting go of someone doesn’t mean that you love them any less. Continue to live your life and work hard in order to make them proud. They will appreciate you for that. On the other hand, dealing with bullying and your personal insecurities is difficult as well. However, it’s so important to let someone know what’s going on in your life. Someone, out there, will be able to help you through this situation. More than anything, the best way to deal with your insecurities is to love yourself. If you love yourself, you will never have to worry about what others think concerning you. Lastly, if you’ve reached a point in your life where you’re facing suicidal thoughts just remember that you’re not alone. The people you admire so much have most likely been through these moments too so just keep in mind that life is worth living. Although you’re in pain, promise yourself you won’t hurt yourself in any way possible. Avoid drugs, alcohol, and remove any possible sharp or hurtful object from your space. Last but definitely not least, talk to someone about this situation. This point has been highlighted throughout this article but it’s just extremely important to remember that you have so many individuals who love you and need you in their life as well. Never think you’re a burden to anyone.
Overall, your mental health is extremely essential to your wellbeing. Hence, do not invalidate yourself or anyone else for their emotions. Instead, support them always and be there for yourself too. You will never know what’s going on through the minds of others, so be aware of your actions. In the end, just remember that you’re never alone and you will always be supported.
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